“Difficulties present an individual’s character.”
Commentary
If we need to know an individual or ourselves deeply, a technique is to watch how they or we reply to problem, challenges, setbacks, failures, stress, and conflicts.
Nevertheless, our power ought to be spent on demanding ourselves to be higher, not others. If we demand others, that may create battle. Apart from, if we won’t even perceive our personal thoughts, how can we perceive the thoughts of others?
Thus, this quote is about understanding ourselves first, then others. It is also about demanding ourselves, not others, to be higher within the face of difficulties. It is simple to be form and well mannered after we’re in a great temper and have loads. However how will we deal with others after we’re careworn, drained, sick, uncomfortable, or do not have loads to provide?
I heard a narrative of a prince who handled his servants reasonably impatiently and unkindly as a result of he was sick and in ache. The king advised him, “Your servants have a a lot harder life than you. Whenever you’re sick, you’ve all these folks attending to you. When they’re sick, they may not have anybody to take care of them, nor can they afford one of the best drugs. You should not give them a foul perspective. That is actually unfair and unkind of you.”
Once I grew giant canker sores in my mouth earlier than, making it painful to eat or converse, I labored arduous to maintain a affected person and type perspective in direction of others. In any case, it isn’t truthful to them if I deal with them with a foul perspective; my ache has nothing to do with them. I used to be pretty profitable, and I used to be fairly happy with my enchancment in character.
Just lately, I used to be actually busy getting ready for an enormous presentation. I slept for 5-6 hours for almost every week as a result of I used to be so busy. One time throughout a meal, somebody stated to me, “Is all the pieces alright? You do not look comfortable nowadays.”
I used to be sort of shocked as a result of I wasn’t sad in any respect. In actual fact, I actually loved the analysis I used to be doing for my massive presentation. I then realized it should be as a result of I look actually drained and severe throughout meals. I then realized how a lot my cultivation continues to be missing. I have been training “consider others together with your each thought” for a couple of months, and that features not giving others damaging power or making others fear.
It is tremendous for me to be actually drained briefly as a result of the sacrifice is price it, however within the course of, I have to be extra cognizant of the power I am giving others. Regardless of how drained I’m, absolutely I can nonetheless greet others with a smile and ask them how they’re doing. The issue was that I used to be absent-minded as a result of all the time fascinated about my presentation.
Being overly connected to something, even when it is a “good” or “necessary” factor, will create issues. Due to that tough expertise, I spotted my deficiency in cultivation. I am certain I’ll encounter extra difficulties sooner or later, and I hope I’ll study from this expertise and do higher subsequent time!
